January 25, 2021
The Confidence Gap In Men and Women
In December of 1920, Amelia Earhart paid to go on her first plane ride. The experience lasted only ten minutes, but it changed the direction of her life: Amelia was determined to be a pilot. It didn’t matter to her that there were only a few women in the field of aviation. Through hard work and challenging conditions, she developed her skills. While other female pilots feared the long journey across the Transatlantic, Amelia’s gutsy determination led her to be the first woman to fly it solo. The confidence she possessed was one of her greatest strengths and led her to set many records.
Amelia Earhart was not the only highly competent female pilot during that time in history. Although she was skilled, I don’t believe that is what caused her to be so successful. Rather it was her confidence, her willingness to go after the impossible, and her belief that she could do it. At Zenger Folkman, we’ve found that confidence proves to be equally as valuable as competence because it leads to action, attention, and resilience—all traits exemplified during Amelia’s transatlantic flight.
Amelia Earhart’s accomplishments were especially noteworthy at the time, because of her achievements in what had been a male domain. Aviators were nearly all men. Gender differences in confidence are quite dramatic. A study done at Cornell University found that men overestimate their abilities and performance, while women underestimate both. In fact, their actual performance does not differ in quality or quantity.
This female confidence challenge was also described as the “imposter syndrome” by Pauline Claunce and Suzanne Imes. Women frequently express that they don’t feel they deserve their job and are “imposters” who could be found out at any moment. They found that women worry more about being disliked, appearing unattractive, outshining others, or grabbing too much attention.
Men are not exempt from doubting themselves—but they don’t let their doubts stop them as often as women do. A Hewlett Packard internal report found that men apply for a job or promotion when they meet only 60% of the qualifications, but women apply only if they meet 100% of them. What doomed them was not their actual ability, but rather the decision not to try.
What is the confidence gap in men and women?
Zenger Folkman’s research shows that as women’s experience increases over time, so does their confidence. The graph below shows that women’s confidence increases more with age than men’s. But consider the many opportunities lost in the early years because of fear and lack of confidence.
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I wish there were definitive steps to build self-confidence and self-esteem, but I don’t think they exist. However, there are a number of things you can do that appear to be related to higher levels of confidence and self-esteem.
Overcoming the Confidence Gap in Men and Women
Amelia Earhart had the guts and gumption to take every opportunity even when she was unsure if she was competent enough to do it. No one knows everything, and most people—male and female—have moments of feeling they are imposters trying to prove their competence and worth. The good news is that for women and men, confidence keeps increasing over time.
(This article first appeared on Forbes.)
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